When you were a child, you had a pure mind; a mind free from worries and anxieties. As time passed, you were influenced by several social, p...
When you were a child, you had a pure mind; a mind free from worries and anxieties. As time passed, you were influenced by several social, personal, familial, and official crises such as financial complications, broken relationships, lack of trust, joblessness, failure in business, loss of respect, and so on. When the mind is stressful, the associated germs of negativity, jealousy, and pessimism add fuel to the fire, and hence your pure mind becomes impure. These impurities, if taken out, can bring back the mental purity; thus, the real spirit of joy of childhood can be attained up to an adequate level. Of course, you cannot fix all of your problems at once, but you can train your mind to develop the skills which can help either bypass or overcome the depressed and tragic situations to give you big-time relaxation while you focus on the solution to your problems. Below are some techniques which can be used to combat the peace-stealing triggers:
Mind Your Own Business
Yes, please mind your own business. When you start being concerned about things that are not related to you, you lose your grip on your thought process, which often results in negativity disturbing the mental peace. Basically, your mind starts wandering here and there. As you know, a non-focused mind is the devil's workshop, hence the germs of negativity and jealousy gain more strength. So next time an unnecessary thought comes to your mind, think whether this is really something you should be worrying about? If not, shun it right away and focus on something positive, practical, and fruitful.Surround Yourself with Positive People
Ignore negative comments and stay away from negative souls. When someone is negative, they spread negativity, and you get affected. Permanently staying with such people will have a long-term impact on your character, so think about your company.Don't Think About Others Too Much
Remember the great quote: small minds discuss people; average minds discuss events; higher minds discuss ideas, and great minds act in silence. Don't allow your brain to compare yourself to others as this is an insult to yourself. Don't be jealous; it's a heart-killing disease. Get rid of it as soon as possible. When you are jealous, you focus on finding faults in others even if they don't have any. This poisons your soul and steals your mental peace.You Can't Keep Everyone Happy
Don't be oversensitive. Be natural and genuine in what you do. Be positive, constructive, and ethical in your deeds, and then don't really care too much about others. Be aware, don't apply this formula to too-close relationships. Develop trust to establish powerful relationships.Control Your Mood Swings as It Is an Indication of an Unstable Personality
Do it by not being oversensitive to others. Stop being reactive and implosive. Stay calm.Ignore Your Thoughts About Being Unlucky
Bad luck happens to everyone. It's not your fault at all. Time, whether good or bad, passes quickly. Develop the power of not looking back into your past. Believe in the power of now. Believe in your skills. Work hard and have faith in God; you will get what you have been entitled to. Be patient and see what God has planned for you. Patience and consistency in your deeds are the keys to success.Practice Simplicity
Simplicity in your character and living style can overcome stress and improve your happiness index. Don't be socially sensitive and start following every single trend your social circle is following.
With these recommendations, I believe you can bring major changes in your lifestyle and hence regain your mental peace. What are your recommendations for gaining mental peace?
Junaid Tahir, a telecom engineer and a blogger, writes articles on wisdom, happiness and stress management at his personal blog. His personal Google Group can be joined here. He is reachable at mjunaidtahir@gmail.com for any kind of suggestions and comments.
